Grudge: the heaviest thing you can carry.
-Anonymous
Hating people is like burning down your own house to get rid of a rat.
-Harry Emerson Fosdick
When you carry a grudge, you give a part of your life-your energy, memory, and enjoyment-to someone who has wronged you. Every time you think of the person or incident, you punish yourself by reliving the experience.
Think of an old hurt that is taking up room in your life and write a farewell letter to it. Tell it about the wonderful things that you are going to give your energy and attention to instead. Give your letter a firm ending.