Most often it happens that one attributes to others only the feeling of which one is capable oneself.
-Andree Gide
It would probably astound each of us beyond measure to be let into his neighbor’s mind and to find out how different the scenery there was from that of his own.
-William James
Many of us persist in the belief that people are pretty much the same, that we share similar values, viewpoints, goals, and emotional needs and attachments. This belief results in many surprises-usually disapointments. What kinds of situations can this belief create? How can a person find out what another’s feelings and values are?